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What an insidious goal, to fit in. Always vacillating between fitting in and standing out, to prove to others that I’m not THAT asian. When I peel back the choices I’ve made, the friendships I’ve built, the personalities I’ve developed, what do I see? I’ve spent so much of my life trying to be white; I’m obsessed with whiteness.
The model minority myth is fucking dangerous. A tool to pawn us as oppressors, while fooling us with fake offerings of acceptance and status. It’s scary. I can see some versions of myself becoming some version of former Officer Tau Thou; supporting the white person in charge; working for their approval—maybe then I’ll be accepted. Are we at fault for being fooled? We can’t let it happen again.
To make change?
“But I’m not white, it doesn’t apply to me.”
“But I’m not black, I shouldn’t take up that space.”
I’ve learned to dominate the room to prove I’m not submissive, but I feel safest when I make myself small, hidden under the cloak of logic and obscurity. Nothing applies to me if I keep myself safe in the shadows. The real conversation stays black and white.
No—fuck all of that.
The REAL conversation lies in the shadows.
Where my grandma tells me I shouldn’t date black. Where my parents move us into the rhite neighborhoods. Where silence is normal and loudly heard. I may not be included in the biggest conversation, but I am included in mine.
Overachiever Magazine was started by Rehana Paul in October of 2018 to give a platform to all Asian women, non-binary people, and other gender minorities.
Our name is poking fun at the stereotype that all Asians are overachievers, especially Asian women, non-binary people, and other gender minorities. It’s also in recognition of all of us who have had no choice but to be overachievers: managing societal expectations, family obligations, and educational opportunities, all while fighting the patriarchy.
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